It's a Friday night, and mid-orgasm, my eyes lock on my husband. He smiles, giving me that devilish look that still makes my stomach flip, even six years into our marriage. The only thing: He's not the man I'm having sex with—my partner is a friend of ours, and a circle of half-clothed strangers and acquaintances are watching the scene. We probably attend one every two months, and we don't necessarily have sex with other people at them—sometimes we have sex with each other, sometimes we just watch, and sometimes we "play" a euphemism for anything that stops before penetration with other people.
I Went to Snctm, a Secret Celebrity Sex Party With a $75,000 Membership Fee
I Went to Snctm, a Secret Celebrity Sex Party That Costs Thousands of Dollars to Attend
New York offers no shortage of options for adults seeking a departure from the routine, and my foray into the lifestyle started with a BDSM event in I realized giving and receiving pleasure in front of an audience was appealing to me, and after doing an internet search for more ways to participate in the scene, I applied to a collective based in Brooklyn that holds monthly swinger parties. Initially, my reservations outweighed my excitement. Would sex be mandatory? What was the dress code? A little research allayed my fears, and I filled out the application with as much transparency as possible.
A Beginner's Guide to Sex Parties
If you've never been to a sex party , what do you picture them looking like? Sweaty orgies where people penetrate one another as a way of saying hi? Some other intimidating, sordid fuckfest that's probably best left to more extroverted, hyper-qualified sex-havers than the likes of you? You're not necessarily wrong, but there are plenty of sex parties where you'd fit right in. Super-elaborate sex parties do exist—as do super chill, casual ones.
Per the dress code, the men are wearing tuxedos, and the women, who outnumber the men by 6 to 1, are wearing La Perla bras, garter belts, and high heels. Everyone is fit and attractive, and everyone is wearing a mask. So I got in touch with Snctm's founder, Damon Lawner, A former party promoter and real estate agent, Lawner says he was inspired to launch Snctm after watching the aforementioned Kubrick film. When his marriage failed, he turned his attention to Snctm, which has since been profiled by Goop , the website founded by Gwyneth Paltrow who is also rumored to be a Snctm member.